Dr. Codrin Stefan Tapu



Direct Relational Therapy FAQ

  1. What is direct relational therapy?

    Direct relational therapy is a form of psychotherapy that involves changing the relationships between various parts of ourselves and of others we relate with.

  2. What is the theory behind direct relational therapy?

    The theory is that there are four main things that people do: they think, act, feel, and express through their body language (as in emotional expressions).

    Well-adjusted people are "direct": they act what they think, and express what they feel. Also, in a relationship, they think about others' acts, and feel about what others express.

    Unadjusted people are "indirect" or "crossed": they act what they feel, instead of what they think, or express what they think, instead of what they feel. In a relationship, they think about what others express, or feel about others' acts. So, to become well-adjusted (or direct) instead of unadjusted (or crossed), we don't have to change the way we think, act, feel, or express, but change the relations among these within ourselves, in our relationships, or both.

  3. What can I do to get ready for DRT treatment?

    Try to always keep in mind that if we act to inform or change others at a rational level, and assess rationally instead of emotionally the actions of others, and if we can feel what others feel, and make them feel what we feel, then we can avoid many of our minor or serious personal and relational problems.

  4. What happens during a typical therapy session?

    Even before your therapy session begins, your therapist may have you fill out a form to assess your relationships. One of the first things your therapist will do in the therapy session is to determine how your relations changed this week, compared to other weeks. You and your therapist will discuss how you can change these relations, in order to improve them and feel better.

  5. What about medication?

    Many patients are treated without medication at all. Some disorders, however, respond better to a combination of medication and relational therapy.

  6. How can I make the best use of therapy?

    Ask your therapist how you might be able to supplement your psychotherapy with relational therapy readings, workbooks, pamphlets, prepare for each session, thinking about what you learned in the previous session and writing down what you want to discuss in the next session, make sure that you try to bring the therapy session into your everyday life.

  7. How will I know if therapy is working?

    Many patients notice a decrease in their symptoms and relational problems within a few weeks of therapy, or even sooner, if they have been faithfully attending sessions and doing the suggested assignments.

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